I feel as though our identities aren't static...it won't ever stay the same forever. We will always develop and change and progress based on our life experiences and your core values will change and that okay. Even though your values change, you're still you. That's just your new identify for the Shar Pei DC Super Heroes you can’t save the world alone shirt. I've thought this exact same thing for so long. Thinking there is a 'self' is comforting, but the concept of a 'real self' seems more and more like a sham as I grow up.